The makings for a wonderful sendoff
BY TRESA ERICKSON

The tradition of throwing rice at a newly married couple has been around since ancient times. Many ancient civilizations believed that by throwing rice the fertility of the seeds would be passed on to the couple. They also believed that rice could ward off evil spirits. The tradition continued well into the 20th century until a rumor began circulating that rice was harmful to birds.

According to several sources, the rumor was started, or at least propelled, by an Ann Landers column in the '60s. Landers advised rose petals be thrown at weddings instead of rice because it was bad for the birds. The rumor soon evolved, and many believed that once eaten, rice would expand in birds' stomachs to the point that they would explode. It became customary to throw birdseed rather than rice.

There have been no proven cases of birds dying from the consumption of rice. According to several experts, rice, whether milled or wild, does not harm birds. Many migrating birds, in fact, eat from the rice fields in the South to gain strength for their return to the North.

So throwing rice at weddings does not pose a threat to the birds…but it can harm guests. When tossed onto a sidewalk or on steps, it puts anyone walking on that surface at risk of falling. In addition, rice can be difficult to sweep up. Many organizations and churches prohibit the throwing of it because it is so messy.

If you can't throw rice, what can you throw? You could try confetti. But that too is messy and may not be allowed. You could also throw birdseed. But again depending where it is thrown it could pose a danger to your guests.

A current trend that seems to satisfy everyone is bubbles. Not only are they less messy, but they offer a unique photo opportunity. If you go this route, make sure you purchase a bubble solution made specifically for weddings. Most come in white half-ounce bottles with wands attached to the caps, and they are free of dyes found in normal solutions that stain fabrics like silk.

If bubbles don't appeal to you, you could try balloons. What better way to end your ceremony than to have each of your guests release a colorful balloon? The sky will be filled with color as you and your groom exit the building as husband and wife.

If you are an animal lover, you may want doves to be released, or if the temperatures are warm, butterflies. Doves have long been a symbol of peace and love. What couple doesn't hope for that? Butterflies also make for a lovely sendoff. Imagine hundreds of them fluttering from your guests' hands as you leave for your honeymoon.

Maybe you want bubbles. Maybe you want butterflies. Maybe you still want rice. Before you decide, contact the site where you are holding the wedding and find out if there are any restrictions. More importantly, take the well-being of your guests into consideration and arrange for whatever you've decided to be carried out safely.